Holiday Ki

There are special times during the year, like holidays, that are filled with key moments -- moments of thankfulness and challenge. Food decisions, company parties, get togethers with friends and family -- they're loaded with opportunities, aren't they? The pressure can allow us to become fully present. Or the opposite, and we end up looking back with regret.

When your sibling does something that pushes your buttons, your children are over the top with excitement, your partner forgets the wine, or your associate forgets the most important action item, whatever you do, say, and receive back will be contingent upon what self you choose in that moment.

Give yourself and those you love and work with some unexpected gifts at holiday time, birthday time, or anytime:

• The gift of your best self. When the pressure is on, breathe and come back to what you really want -- for this moment, and this relationship.
• The gift of empathy. Give up the fight and acknowledge the pressure that you and they are under.
• The gift of perspective. Laugh, love, let go, and learn.
• The gift of peace. Don't talk about peace, BE peace, in your family, your workplace, your community, and your nation. As Ghandi said, "We must be the change we wish to see in the world."

What Ki Moments await you? How will you extend your life energy? How will you receive others'? It's your choice. Good ki!

Judy Ringer