Judy Ringer has an e-newsletter, Ki Moments, which she sends out monthly. In the October issue, she offers a link to a test to learn more about your 'hot buttons'. The Center for Conflict Dynamics at Eckerd College in Florida defines 'hot buttons' as those irritations and annoyances that can provoke you into conflict.
"They are the situations or characteristics in others that aggravate and frustrate you, perhaps to the point where, despite knowing better, you instigate a conflict. Interactions with button pushers can leave you feeling demoralized, unmotivated, powerless, anxious, frightened, and angry (possibly enough to resort to sabotage or other destructive acts). In the workplace, Hot Buttons can lead you to be less productive, efficient, organized, and creative; they can also negatively affect your life outside of work as well as your physical and emotional well-being."
If you would like to take the test, you can do so at this link. If you would like to receive Judy's Ki Moments, you can sign up at this link.